Bisexual Visibility ~ Just A Woman Who Happens To Be Bisexual
This is the International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia, and Biphobia. If you live in the US then you might be following the news in relation to the transgender community and public restrooms. I'm not going to talk about that today. I'm sure it will touched upon by more than one person for this hop. Today, I will talk a bit about Biphobia.
I am bisexual and I guess you could say that I'm peeking out of the "closet". My husband knows (he knows everything about me) and I shared this piece of myself with one of my brothers after our dad passed, but really there are very few people I trust with part of myself. My sexuality is not something I discuss lightly because it's deeply personal. And I hate labels and how people react as if they have a right to judge.
I've known I was bisexual since I was fourteen. Well, that's not technically true. I knew I was different, and I didn't mind, but I grew up in a highly religious community where the church encouraged kids to burn books and music that carried the "message of the devil". I knew I wasn't like others when I impulsively kissed a girl I really liked. Kids. They just jump in and forget to weigh the consequences. I wasn't thinking, and I lost a friend that day. It wasn't until she hurried up and left that I had begun to worry. Would she tell someone else? Would it get spread around school? How would I be treated?
At the time I didn't know there was a name for what I was. Really, there wasn't LGBT anything where I grew up and slurs such as fag and dyke were used often as put-downs and cruel teasing. So I didn't talk about it, and held the knowledge close to my chest because it wasn't anybody's business. Even when I moved north, I stayed closed up. By then, I'd been traumatized (by nothing that had to do with being bisexual) and I'd lost all trust in everyone. I never thought to look for a LGBT organization in my new hometown because I hadn't know that such a thing existed.
When I met my husband, I was considering settling down, and the one thing I always believed was whoever I wanted to spend my life with, there could be no secrets. When I shared this part of myself with him, he didn't care. His reaction was no different than if I'd said I liked coffee better than tea. No one needs to tell me that I'm a lucky girl.
I remember when I began reading male/male romance and came across a book tagged as "gay-for-you" I was confused because the MC was bisexual, but saying so caused a host of commenting about why the MC wasn't really bisexual as if there was something wrong with being bisexual.
There are all of these myths about bisexuals not being faithful or that we can't make up our mind between being gay or straight. I was once asked if that meant I wanted to have both a man and woman in bed. That is not what being bisexual means. But you're married to a man! So what. I am not a label. I'm a woman who happens to be bisexual. Now that I feel I have overshared, lets look at the giveaway.
~For a Fun Giveaway~
I was trying to figure out what to do for the giveaway that would be fun and I thought that offer up a couple of namings for the next Valespian Pact book, Bespoken. I'm almost finished with Releasing Chaos and the next story slotted for writing is Bespoken.
Depending on how many people leave a comment with your email addy--because really, y'all, secrecy is the word. I will work the character into the Valespian Pact series but all discussions of the actual name will be done on a private forum.
Right now, I'm offering to allow one commenter to give me one character name and I will go up to three names (one for each winner selected) if there is a lot of participation.
Good Luck! I hope you enjoy the hop! The winners will be selected no later than Sunday, May 22, 2016.
~Other Blogs on the Hop~
Erica Pike (M/M)
Andrew Jericho (GAY)
Tempeste O’Riley (M/M)
Lexi Ander (M/M, BI, TRANS)
Thank you for stopping by and reading!!